(This post was inspired by a DM exchange with Daisy Martell. Please follow her here.)
The basics: Our quality of life is in my humble opinion not determined by what we have nor by what we are. It is determined by how we feel on a consistent basis. If I’m poor economically, but still feel good about myself and my family, the financial conondrums really go into the back of my mind, they make me feel bad on a far less important level. .
If I have a health problem, let’s say diabetes, but still feel good about the quality of my work, that makes me feel a lot better because I’m focusing on the positive aspects of my life.
And that’s the crunch point, because what we focus on on a consistent level, what we think about, in turn determines how we feel.
So if I permanently focus on the negative aspects of my life it has become clear now that that would make me feel lousy.
How to focus on the positive aspects of your life?
I’ve set up a list were I write down whenever something I am grateful for pops up in my head, whenever I think something positive.
And working on that list makes my mind automatically search for the nuggets in my life. And it’s surprising how many there are.
And it’s fun. Whenever my emotional body decides to look at the bleak sides of life, I simply counter it by looking at my list.
Try it out, it works.
I think it is certainly true that if we focus on negative elements in our life the problems and the negativity just gets larger and larger until it blocks out the light.
ReplyDeleteIf we focus on the positive things - whether it's seeing a silver birch tree against a winter sky or just a delicious cup of coffee - then one's spirits are lifted.
I tell myself everyday to think on the positive things in life, rather than the negative. Just to go out late evening and see the beautiful full moon moving up, than that helps me to be thankful. So, than i count my blessings.I think the list is a good idea. Enjoy reading your post and always look for them.
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